Monday, August 24, 2009

The Breaths We Take....

Yesterday my mother gave me the newest George Straight CD. If you don't know, I'm a huge lover of music. I listen to each word and try to explain why the artist wrote the song. I find that music helps me express my feelings as well as relieve stress and pain from my life. I have been a lover of music almost all of my life. Anyways, on my way to work today I listened to it a bit and pretty soon I had tears rolling down my cheeks. This is not all that uncommon, however I didn't stop crying the entire song. It goes something like this:
He looks up from second base
Dad’s up in the stands
He saw the hit, the run, the slide
There ain’t no bigger fan
In the parking lot after the game he said
“Dad I thought you had a plane to catch”
He smiled and said “Yeah son I did”
Life’s not the breaths you take
The breathing in and out
That gets you through the day
Ain’t what it’s all about
Ya just might miss the point
Try’n to win the race
Life’s not the breaths you take
But the moments that take your breath away
Fast forward fifteen years And a thousand miles away
Boy’s built a life he’s got a wife And a baby due today
He hears a voice saying “I made it son
He said “I told you dad you didn’t have to come”
He smiles and says ”Yeah I know you did”
Just like it took my breath when she was born
Just like it took my breath away when dad took his last that morn
Life’s not the breaths you take
The breathing in and out That gets you through the day
Ain’t what it’s all about
Ya just might miss the point
If ya don’t slow down the pace
Life’s not the breaths you take
But the moments that take your breath away....
From the very first line talking about his parent at the game the tears started. I didn't even know what the song was about, but the memories of my parents in the stands at ALL of my sports games came to mind. My father worked till 3-3:30 everyday, yet he was at all of my games. My mother was always there too. Babysitting kids in tow if they were still there when it was game time! (even at the bowling matches and endless tournaments I attended!) I always appreciated it, however now that I'm a mother I have a whole new appreciation for that. My parents have always been active in our lives. They cared about the things we did, the friends we hung out with and just US in general. We were not rich, my father worked hard, sometimes cleaning pools on the side on his Saturday off to help us make ends meet, and my mother would babysit as well, but I wouldn't have wanted it any other way! We grew closer as a family by spending so much time together. We hardly went out to dinner, but when we did we enjoyed the new atmosphere with one another. I remember when Dad would get home from work we would always ask him to go out and play with us. He would always scold us for not saying hello first. So we would then say, "Hi dad, wanna go out and play?" He had just had a busy day at work yet he always went out and played with us. I know Mom probably enjoyed that a lot, getting a break from us kids for a while while we bugged dad instead!
This song could have been written by me, describing my parents. My mother was in the delivery room for each of my kids births. My father was in the waiting room for each of their births as well. When my father gets home from work each day, Ethan asks him to go outside and play, and my father does. My mother watches my kids everyday and yet she still loves them with all her heart! My dad continues to tell me to enjoy every minute with my kids because before I know they will be all grown up. I grew up with two wonderful examples of what parents should be like from them. How blessed I am to have them in my life, to have their examples to live by and to have their never ending, always growing love in my life, the life of my children and the life of my future children. I have been forever enriched from my parents and will never be able to express my true appreciation for them.
How important it is that we don't miss the point of life, that we don't get carried away in unimportant things. I am not a perfect mother, but I hope to be at least half the parent my parents were for me. I hope to enjoy the "breaths" that will truly give me the capability to support my life! I love my children and hope and pray that I can be the great parents to them that mine were to me!


Keever Family said...

I love your parents! They are such wonderful people! I wish we were closer and able to see them, my kids would love them!

tiffunny said...

Your parents are awesome! This was a great post Hilary. THanks for reminding all of us to really enjoy what's really important in life.